Rebecca Stone, LMHC
A Life Worth Living
The foundation of DBT's therapeutic approach is based on "building a life worth living." This concept had come up a lot in this week's sessions for various reasons: purpose/meaning of life, depression, fear of end of life, general anxiety, and more.
Sometimes it can be difficult to cope with the things we don't understand, are unknown, or are not within our control. At times, these things can feel overwhelming, scary, or create a sense of meaninglessness or hopelessness.
While we may not be certain how long we'll live, what's to come after death, or simply what's going to happen tomorrow, we can make choices about the here-and-now and take steps towards our future.
When you think of a "life with living," what comes up for you? What components are there?
As I reflect on this, there's a lot that comes to mind. Here are a few:
Pushing myself to try new things that I haven't done before (I'm referring to hockey),
Doing my best to try to raise kids who will grow to be great adults,
Spending time with family and friends,
Having an animal that brings me joy,
Helping others in small and big ways,
Among many other things.
With a focus on hockey, I'm a Florida native who had never been on the ice before a few years ago. I'm guessing I had no more than 15 hours of just casual skating on the ice before deciding to get out there and practice hockey with my family. While I was nervous (both a little scared and excited), I forgot all about it out there and enjoyed myself more than I would have ever expected. Introverted me even made a new friend who was also out there with her son! I will certainly be doing it again, and again, and again.
It's okay to not be okay and to also keep going. There are moments and situations, roles, experiences, and people/places/things that are enjoyable, fun, exciting, or even just "okay" that help make life worth living. When things are rough, remember those things. Make space and time for them and enjoy the hell out of life when you can!